"Am I Really The One For Him?" - 10 Signs You Are Not His Future Wife

With a doubt, every girl wants to end up with a man they love at the end of the day. But no one likes a one-sided relationship. Most times, you think: “Is he going to marry me?”, “Am I the one for him?” etc. The naked truth is that, most people see the signs and choose to ignore which is not the way to achieve a happy home. Below are well studied 10 signs that you are not his future wife and might be wasting your time.

1. He never wants to meet your family:
Often, guys shy away when their girlfriends invite them over to her parents’ house, especially around the beginning of a relationship. That already sounds like a wedding introduction and the thought makes them uncomfortable. The truth is if he has you in his future plans, no matter how uncomfortable it makes him feel, he would do it anyway!

2. He never wants to talk about marriage:
This is the ultimate bummer. He never wants to discuss marriage or bring up marriage related issues. He uses expressions like ‘I want my future wife to be ambitious’ when talking to you. Hello! and you are sitted right there?. What happened to wanting you to be ambitious if you guys end up together? Not every good relationship leads to marriage but if he can’t even daydream about you being his future wife, then it probably won’t happen.

3. He is always unavailable:
He would rather hang out with his friends than hang with you. Don’t get me wrong, it is okay for them to hang with their friends but if you guys don’t see each other often, and he still picks other things to do asides you, then sweetie, there is a problem!

4. He always has excuses for everything:
For example, maybe he travels somewhere and you “the girlfriend” happen to have family there and ask him to drop by, he would give all the excuses in the world and not do it.

5. He never lets you into his personal business:
Most people want to have a boyfriend or girlfriend who is also their best friend. Someone you can say anything to. People who are in that kind of relationship know that it is a beautiful feeling. Now what this means is, whenever something very personal is bothering him, he never wants to talk. He would rather not tell you about his issues and act like everything is fine. Maybe he has another babe he off loads to. I am just saying my own o!

6. Always in a rush to discharge you:
Every time you guys hang out or talk over the phone, he wants to cut the call in a hurry or drop you off early. This is another major sign. If he is serious about you, it’s meant to be the total opposite. He would always want to spend time with you with the little time he gets.

7. He is over ambitious:
We all know that most guys want to make money before marriage. They want to be established before they get married to the love of their lives. So at that point in your relationship, all he talks about is work and how he is going to make millions. Now there is nothing wrong with being ambitious, but at that time, both of you would be in two different places. This is for people who want to settle down. For the younger ones, you can wait for him if you want to.

8. He never listens to you:
In this case, it varies. It’s either he is not a good listener or he just doesn't care. He would whine about his own problems and you would listen like the virtuous wife but when it’s your turn, that’s when he remembers he hasn't chatted with his long-time friend. Someone who is interested in you would listen to all your problems.

9. His introduction to his friends and family:
This should be watched out for. If he does not want to end up with you, he might introduce you with your name. He might not even add that you are his girlfriend sometimes. And their friends are dangerous too o! Don’t be too excited when they call you ‘iyawo’. They would call the next babe iyawo too. So that does not really count. Simply monitor how he introduces you to the people he cares about.

10. He never puts you in his plans:
If you have a boyfriend who literally plans his whole day without you in it, then there is a little problem. He is okay when you don’t put him in your plans as well. You have a situation where you haven’t spent time together and he is not bothered. You say you are spending the whole weekend with your friends; he won’t be upset that you guys haven’t spent time. He would be totally fine with it. If you mean a great deal to him and he wants to end up with you, you would be part of his routine without even trying hard.

If a guy does any of these to you, he probably does not see you in his future. At the end of the day, only God knows our hearts.

Credit: Chinenye Ugonna