Marriages are blissful, happy and mostly long lasting and what better way to keep it smooth than to learn some tried and tested tips to keeping your union as fresh as that magical first day of meeting.
Outlined below are 15 tips to making love last in the long haul:
1. Be each other’s best friends. When the sex and the so called love starts to grow faint, friendship always stands the test of time. So start doing things together, fun things to be precise.
2. Never fight about money. Financial problems amongst couples have been a common cause of divorce, but the easiest way to resolve this inevitable dispute is to have a clear agreement. Always remain calm during financial arguments.
3. Always treat your husband like an honoured guest. A lot of women bring out the best plates in the house only when the Pastor or the Tycoon comes visiting…..honour your husbands at every given opportunity.
4. Have a ritual. It could be dancing on the couch or having late night ice-cream or costume nights, it could be anything at all. Having something to look forward to every now and then can create yet another kind of bond – tap into this.
5. Always remember that women want to be cherished and loved while men crave respect even above love – the ego needs to be fed from time to time. Respect is reciprocal and when both partners feel a sense of love of respect, the relationship is better preserved.
6. Seek to do good for your partner instead of being selfish and thinking about yourself alone. Marriages bind 2 completely different people together and they are forced to cohabit and live in peace, it is only safe to do so with someone you feel totally comfortable and unselfish with.
7. Get involved in each others work. Be passionate, supportive and interested in your partner’s work, challenges and setbacks and be their pillar of strength.
8. Old Bestfriends? Forget them! Let your partner be your first and only best friend after all they’ll be the ones to put up with you for the rest of their lives…..let them in. If your partner is not your best friend then the chances of both of you having a happy relationship is low!
9. Know yourself before you marry. Discover your strengths, your weaknesses and try to achieve the most you can on a personal level. With his vital knowledge, living with someone else can be palatable.
10. Keep your sex life interesting. It is no longer news that sex with your partner can get relatively boring and quite predictable after a period of time but making a conscious effort to keep it interesting can also spice up the relationship and keep both partners anticipating.
11. Realize at every point in the relationship that the marriage is for better or for worse and there is no opportunity of divorce, this will help both partners make conscious efforts to work hard and fix their differences as they arise.
12. Communication is KEY and this particular exercise in a relationship cannot be over emphasized. Talking about issues such as finance, choice of school for the kids, location for vacation etc, will help both partners have a simple understand of decisions being made and creates a tighter bond.
13. Remember – Saying ‘please’, ‘thank you’, ‘welcome’, ‘am sorry’ etc are all very important. Over time they may begin to seem unnecessary but these are the little things that set your partner off. Be polite and courteous.
14. Do stuff together but not the same thing all the time.
15. SEX!!!! The interesting part. Don’t get bored or tired or too busy…..enjoy it like it’s the first time and keep exploring.
Above all, remember friendship, understanding, and have at the back of your mind that the grass is not always greener on the other side. Above are our 15 top tips to a long lasting marriage, what have we missed out?
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