Making love or having
sex, are they the same thing? How do I differentiate love making from just
having sex? This nature of questions comes up frequently from spouses and
proffering answers to them may sometimes get confusing.
Basically, making love is when two lovers are deeply in love
with each other and indulge in all form of passionate sex, while having sex may
just be about experiencing erotic pleasure down there. But oddly enough, both
are very necessary in any marital relationship.
Almost always, ladies say they like making love simply
because it involves lots of touching, long sensual foreplay and the like; while
many men can’t help but say they like having sex. However, gender
generalisation may really not be true because many men prefer love making to
having sex.
Although, making love and having sex may sound similar,
there’s a big emotional difference. While making love involves the feeling of
love, the spouse connection, love doesn’t really have to enter the equation
when it comes to having sex. When couples have been in a relationship with each
other for few months or years and they are deeply attracted to each other, such
partners are probably making sweet love every time both of them get into bed.
Making love is far more relaxed and slow paced than just having sex. It brings
with it all the hot pleasure of sex and each time these two emotions come
together, the pleasure would definitely be more intensified. And the best part
about making love is that there is more room for communication, deep sharing
and prolonged foreplay. Both partners would not only be comfortable with each
other, they will be aware of each other’s moves and deepest desires, that
naturally may not surface when having sex. In one word, sex is just a perfect
fusion.
But when it comes to having sex, sex is usually triggered
off more from object of attraction, boiling arousal, sexual famishment, long
abstinence, and prolonged denial. Foreplay is usually skipped; this type of sex
is usually fast and furiously done in the car, under the shower, on a road
trip, in a private office, at a friend’s place… anywhere secure and at least
semi-comfortable! In this type of sex, you just want to have sex to quench your
arousal-hunger and endless torture and you wouldn’t care about awkward
positions or cramps and sprains until the deed is done. While having sex is
more of a pure carnal satisfaction, yet both make sexual intimacy in marriage
spicy.
Sometimes, just having sex with your husband or wife can be
more fun than making love. At the start of a marital relationship, it’s the
sexual attraction that makes making love feel so sexy. But when couples make
love all the time and avoid having fast, quickie and furious sex, the hot rush
of passion may start to drop because neither of the partners is focusing on
sexual attractiveness and triggers.
It is not uncommon that both may be deeply in love with each
other yet sexually unsatisfied due to lack of sexual attraction. Sometimes,
this may even lead to loss of libido, lack of sexual desire, weak erection and
some orgasms challenges.
You can still experience the best love making in sex and
even stay loyal to each other while both of you exchange hot quick ideas and
sexual thoughts while having sex.
Time of love making helps sexual romance to bloom; it gives
room to communion well and also helps activate the mind while creating
fantasies and imagination together. Spouses can even create new and exciting
sexual memories.
Time of lovemaking is time of pure openness; it allows you
to say what you are thinking and also makes you to talk like you’re having an
affair. The sexiest way to talk freely with your partner is when you are most
relaxed; it helps you to fantasise about passionate moments. In any successful
relationship, couples need a perfect blending and balance of making love and
having sex. So therefore, when a spouse feels like his or her partner is not
emotionally connected in bed, that is not the moment to fret. At times, just
having sex can be a good thing too, just as long as you look for ways to bring
lovemaking back into the bedroom now and then. So, balance the equation; make
love and have sex. The combination can be super.
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